Someday We’ll Find It
I had heard of a practice some people have of choosing a word — a concept — to be their overarching theme of the year. In yogic terms, this could be likened to a sankalpa, or deep intention. I had thought it was a cool idea, but never gave it a try–mainly because I didn’t believe I would be able to pick just one thing. Or at least not the “right” thing (I’m an enneagram type 1). I also doubted that I would stick with it. Yet, for the past couple weeks, out of the blue, the idea has been germinating in me to make “harmony” my sankalpa for 2022.
Personally, I tend to seek harmony in life, in everything from my environment to my relationships. To be honest, though, I don’t think I’ve been too successful. Sure, my home has white walls and little clutter, but I’m pretty sure that’s because it’s easier than choosing colors and décor that harmonize. Similarly, the harmony I seek in relationships is often found by avoiding conflict, which is easier than resolving it.
Then, when this idea of harmony as my theme for 2022 started growing in me, a memory from middle school popped into my head. I was in the 6th Grade Chorus, and our flagship song for the spring concert was “Rainbow Connection” from The Muppet Movie. I loved that song! Anyone who knows me, knows I love music and I love to sing along with songs. And most of these people also know I am only a step up from world’s worst singer. I wouldn’t face that then, so when our choral director, Mr. Greco, assigned me to sing harmony, I was crushed. And angry. I wanted to sing the melody! Sing the lyrics and tune that I already knew by heart! But, (as a conflict avoider) I accepted my part and learned the harmony. It was hard for me even though I thought the harmony part was boring. I sang it anyway because I wanted to be part of the song.
At the time, I didn’t learn anything from the experience. Honestly, I don’t even remember the harmony part. (But, I still sing the melody now and then — much to the horror of my teenage son.) Thinking about it now, though, I have learned to appreciate how the backing vocal lines add richness and depth to songs. I recognize that sometimes accepting one’s limitations can be a gift. And I realize that even though I will never be an American Idol, I can still sing my heart out.
Most of all, contemplating all this has made me aware that instead of seeking harmony in 2022, I want to actively work on creating harmony. Mr. Greco took a roomful of dissonant teenage voices and combined them into a beautiful song that resonated throughout that auditorium. He didn’t leave anyone out, or shut anyone up. He highlighted talents and downplayed limitations. He created harmony. That’s what I intend to do in 2022.
Here’s the song:
